divorce or stay

A turn in a relationship means things once were on the right track before something happened. Usually, things had been wavering but the waivering vailed by love, lust or need

And even though "things" happen in relationships, there is a road-size line, not a thin line. but a road-size line, of what could happen. Things like Infidelity, violence (verbal and physical), dishonesty, and unjustified absences, unnacounted time, or chronic silences, are some of the most intolerable things that are grounds for permanent separation.

Do you think it is time for you or him to bounce?

Lets's look at the details.

Unjustifiable acts of agression:

After you ask to get into his personal email, does he ask to do somethng to it before you? And if you insist, does his mood change?

Does he come home and starts complaining abouth things that never moved before he left? Maybe he complains about the food or lack of food. He just finds somethng to complain about when he comes home.

Are his "boys" more important? Does he need to give "them" more than three hours a week? Three hours a week! Thats too much. Come on guys, is sports really that worth it?

Good byes too short? Does he give you a decent kiss or series of pecks before he leaves? Do you have a parting ritual, even if you will be appart for a few hours? Is the ritual constant? meaning does it change? When and why does it change?

Children: are the children a necessary "pain" to him or is he constantly complaining? Can he live without them causing him "pain"? You must love the pain your kids give you. My son is like a wallet, never leaves my side if he can help it. It hurts while he is there, but I miss him terribly and feel empty when he is not in my way or buzzing in my ear

Sex; how do you do it? Ferverently and lustfuly, or allways in a dutiful manner? Do you talk about it? Do you explore new things? Do you use marital aids? if not consider. A man has the interest span of a 5 year old. We are touchy feely beings, who need to explore new things, and ways, no matter how slightly new or different.

Is mutual abstinance a problem? A mutual agreement to go a month or two may be beneficial for a frsh start. The problem could be financial or security if he cannot do it.

Maybe you simply need consolation, and to come to terms with yourself and one another. Agree that the grass may not be green on your side of the fence but you do not have a desrt either.

Consolation